ENGLISH: So tell me, what did you come to find here? Read more and see what my opinions & thoughts on everything are all about. Followed my blog? I'll follow yours. PORTUGUÊS: Então me diga, o que você veio encontrar aqui? Leia mais e veja quais são as minhas opiniões & pensamentos sobre todas as coisas. Seguiu o meu blog? Vou seguir o seu.
I stumbled across this question because I lived something like it. I believe we all did. In any relationship, whether it is with people or objects – since both can become victims of this hazard – there is a fine line, or even a limit, which defines the quality of those relationships. Sometimes, even not hankering for it, we cross those limits and reach their negative sides, and there is no questioning! Bad consequences will come from now on. Addiction, sorrow, closure. Knowing how to maintain a healthy and profitable coexistence is crucial for you, active part in this relationship, in order to avoid the three mentioned effects that can come out of it. So I would like to know and ask you: when do we know the limit’s been reached? What is your limit? Funny thing is that this fine line varies from one person to another but, I found some points that they have in common and are signs you’re approaching it. 1) Exhaustion – physical, mental or even financial. Once your efforts to please/coexist with someone/something are making you really tired, take a step back and breathe. Good things demand work, but not so much. 2) Excessive Worrying – so thinking constantly about something is getting in the middle of your routine? Makes your day less useful, in some way? Then there comes the time where you need to learn how to dose your thoughts and attitudes towards this, going to sleep feeling gratification and fulfillment is better than feeling like there’s something lacking. 3) Change of Priorities – sensitive matter to talk about… How many times things and plans are changed because of certain people or circumstances? I’m beyond counting how many times I’ve done it, and I won’t deny: I know I’ll do it again, but there is something substantial to our comprehension, that definitely will make a difference: analyze if it is beneficial to your life. Cities and opportunities may change, as long as you are still your biggest investment, main priority. Acknowledging that the outcomes will be positive and lucrative is not altering priorities, but a deviation in the road that’ll lead to the same corner: you. Thinking someone can know everything is an inherent characteristic to human beings, even though some are more flexible than others, it makes listening to advices or critics (constructive ones! Otherwise it’s not necessary) something painful, but practicing it on a daily basis, guarantees humbleness. To add the great words of Confucius, “humility is the solid foundation of all the virtues”, among those virtues (particular qualities) we can certainly find happiness.